I suppose, no I know, that crazy resurfaces no matter what circumstances
we use to circumvent it. Really sounds
technical doesn’t it? I know because I know. I took ‘me’ into a relationship and boy howdy
can it turn on a dime.
So, quick background for my own sanity in this is total fear
of abandonment. The incredible doubt
that plagues me still today. I tried to
tell myself that this time the hurt of yesterday will not cloud today. When the new in a relationship washes all
fears away for a minute; it comes back with a vengeance. I am without defense against this monster
that lurks within.
So, I threw crazy around last night. Totally tormented I insisted on letting him
know. What did I think would
happen? My motives were so wrought with
fear that I couldn’t stop what I was doing.
COULD NOT! How pitiful that
sounds.
So, we talked about this; his response was, ‘this is all I have
to give right now’. Wow! I was speechless for a moment. When I realized the extent of that silence I quickly
said the only thing I knew to say, ‘ok, no problem’. We hung up with the understanding that we
needed to back up, but he told me more than once, I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE. Why I couldn’t hear that….. no idea?!
So, I cried myself to sleep allowing the darkness of my
quiet room to shield me from the outside world that still seemed to consume
me.
As I woke this morning my initial thought was, ‘oh yuck’ I did not want to face ME today.
Well I did what I knew to do to bring about that sense of
ease and comfort that precedes a drink…. (my old means of coping). I reached out to God. As I read my morning meditation I just felt
so off the beam. So wrought with anxiety
that I knew I had to drop at His feet.
I am doing a bible study on the story of Gideon. Gideon was scared little man whom God used
for a great purpose; although to Gideon his own fear was keeping him from
following what God had already set in motion.
You see, I had totally turned my life over to His care. This meant He was in control and I needed to
back up. What I heard from Gideon was
not to keep asking God but to trust in the knowledge that he has this/me.
So, in pain, fear, anxious for the unknown to stop consuming
me… I reached out in prayer. Lord I know
that I have this issue. I also know that
I am in the trusting of your leading today and that is how it will be. No relationship can be worth all this. Even if it is self-imposed. What happened was calm. What was calmed was my insides of self-doubt…
in complete clarity a smile came on my face.
My insecurities are not ever going to be fixed by ( ) fill in the blank. EVER!
For brevity’s sake let me say this; I talked to ‘S’ and told him what
was going on and IF he could walk with me through this even if for a moment
then ok, if not… then it can end here.
I felt the pang in my stomach but if it hurts for a moment, that is
better than my insides unraveling at a rate quicker than Zeus can throw a
lightning bolt.
Today, I accept that my character defects still lurk
about. I accept that I can face them or
manipulate the circumstances to fix ‘it’.
Thank God for his grace.
I can walk forward and still breathe.
To finish the conversation with ‘S’ he seemed fine. He is not going anywhere, today. He is taking me to a nice dinner tonight,
maybe a movie. And once again my heart
swells with peace. Peace that passes all
understanding.
I’m love a God so big and merciful and no man can come
between that. Today.