When all we have
left is family do we still have it all? Over
my adult life my family (siblings) have had our share of hostility. He said, she said… this one does like and
this one agrees, upsetting another one…………………… my poor mother… how did she
handle her adult children arguing…. Some of those fights lasted for several years.
Now our children
are grown, with families of their own; and at times they two have butted
heads. And when they do it is not
pretty. What I know about their
personalities is one is bull headed the other is passive-aggressive. Fire and Water! Bam!
What I also know
about me is I want to keep the peace, fix the issue. And sometimes that is not my job. Not my circus, not my monkey’s. today is a prime example of that.
Without having a
family meeting (whatever that would mean cause we never have had one) my son
and I changed Thanksgiving dinner to his house.
Along with other in-laws, new baby… etc.
sounds good. Never, ever dreaming
this to be an issue. Well it is and
feelings got hurt and people are angry.
Hurting people,
hurt people… emotionally… today is a great example of that. So here is the deal; I am stuck in the
middle. I want all concerned to be
ok/happy if you will…. I also want it NOW!
That is not going to happen, not today.
He is mad… she sounds hurts. I just
want to say, figure it out and let me know.
See I only want us together. I don’t
care where. Is this what my mother went
through with 4 kids? Good grief!
So, this wont be
ok until someone steps up to that line and says… ok, this isn’t worth arguing
about. Problematic is neither will do
that. Ugh and ugh!
Not my circus but
still feel bad…….. I have 4 grandkids that don’t need to know any of this and
certainly should be able to see any any of them when we want. Not clear enough? Trying to keep families together may prove to
be a difficult task. One that I’m not
sure I even have the capabilitiy to do.
I’m not happy, not
happy with either of them. So, I will
sit back and let the two of them figure this out. If they can’t then our 1st
thanksgiving without their dad will be even more gloomy.
I do not think
either can see the big picture. Heck I have
a hard time myself.