When we give of our time, of ourselves exactly why do we and what do we want from that act? I'm talking sponsorship. I have sponsored woman that drop out of sight and others that stick around for all the promises to come true. I have one that just doesn't get it. She has asked someone to help her. Really? My first thought and knee jerk reaction was.... well F her. However, when she called me after that my heart jumped to be able to offer her some solution based living. It's up to her if she uses these suggestions or not. I hung up thinking how miraculous it was that I did not tell her to get lost. To use the school yard tactics of a 5 year old to make my point. HUH! You don't want me then FINE! We all know what I'm talking about. Not doing that told me there is a power greater than all of us that steps in and IF we allow that power to flow, life is better.
She is a wonderful woman. Struggling w/ early sobriety. What if i had been pushed aside early on? What if whomever was sponsoring me (at that time, as I have had a few) told me to find someone else?!
The emotionally immature side of me (then) would have been devistated. Cause I would make it all about me! She doesn't like me! Whaaa!
Now, full circle, I just listened w/ love and understanding while she stated her position.
No anger, no retaliation. Just love.
Wow. God you are awesome and I am so excited to be a vessel for YOUR message.